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Seeking Validation - Begins Within

We all want to be loved

It's been said that everyone desires to be acknowledged and recognized. Personally, I find great fulfillment in knowing that my existence is meaningful to someone. Conversely, feeling unseen or unheard can be deeply upsetting. However, it's important to acknowledge that developing a healthy relationship with ourselves is essential before we can expect anyone else to love and appreciate us fully. Maintaining clear boundaries and self-love are essential steps towards creating meaningful relationships with others.

In any relationship, whether it's romantic, platonic, or professional, it's important to feel heard and validated. However, the question of when it's okay to speak up and make your voice heard can be a difficult one to answer. On the one hand, we want to be honest and authentic with those around us. On the other hand, we don't want to come across as demanding or insensitive. In this blog post, we'll explore when it's okay to be heard in relationships and how to do so in a respectful and constructive manner.

The first thing to consider when deciding when to speak up is the nature of the relationship itself. For example, if you're in a romantic relationship, it's important to be open and honest with your partner about your feelings and needs. However, if you're in a professional relationship, you may need to be more cautious about how you express yourself, especially if there's a power dynamic at play.

Another factor to consider is the timing of your message. If you're upset or angry, it's important to take a step back and cool down before expressing your thoughts. This will help you avoid saying something hurtful or damaging that you may regret later. It's also important to consider the other person's feelings and schedule when choosing when to speak up. For example, if your partner is dealing with a stressful work deadline, it may not be the best time to have a serious conversation.

When it comes to actually expressing yourself, there are a few key principles to keep in mind. First, it's important to be clear and concise about what you're trying to say. Rambling or going off on tangents can make it harder for the other person to understand your perspective. Second, try to focus on your own feelings and needs rather than attacking the other person. For example, instead of saying "You never listen to me," try saying "I feel like I'm not being heard when I talk to you." Finally, be open to feedback and compromise. Relationships are a two-way street, and it's important to work together to find solutions that work for both parties. In conclusion, being heard in relationships is an important part of building strong connections with those around us. However, it's important to consider the nature of the relationship, the timing of your message, and how you express yourself. By following these principles, you can ensure that your voice is heard in a respectful and constructive manner.


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